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Doors

Doors. I have been stuck on this blog post idea for about three weeks. I have the cutest door listings waiting in the wings, but I just can’t chisel out the idea from my creative mind. The idea seems to be lodged behind a story of locking myself behind the bathroom door when I was in kindergarten and standing at the thresholds of all the doors I have ever come upon. There’s no shred of intrigue to either idea. I locked myself behind a door and I have  indecisively stood at the doors of life. What more can I say?

I was afraid to crawl out from under the bathroom door because it was a huge, white, empty bathroom with a long line of steel grey bathroom doors which went on forever. Something scary lurked behind each door, waiting, only for me. I hated going in there by myself. I hurried so I could leave with the other kids. Unfortunately, that particular day, I was slower than usual and got left behind. Then, to my little kid horror, I couldn’t get the door unlocked. Fear gripped my five year old heart as I stood paralyzed in the silence staring at the silver lock. I yelled for help.

The truth of the matter was that I could crawl out but then I would be standing alone in the silence of the bathroom and that frightened me more than what lurked behind each door. I didn’t even think that what lurked behind each door could actually slither from stall to stall until it reached me. No, the silence terrified me more.

Help did come in the form of a teacher or a child, I can’t remember who, but I was no longer facing the silence alone. I think my rescuer told me I could crawl out because I remember feeling oddly stupid, but, it was better than feeling terrified of the silence.

Silence of the unknown. I wonder if that fear of the silent unknown has followed me through the years? Each locked door has held it’s own silence of the unknown. And since I didn’t rescue myself, do I unknowingly expect someone to rescue me at each new door?

I had to stop writing this blog last night to ponder the question of whether I expect someone to rescue me at each new door.  My answer is no. I don’t go through many doors to find out what is on the other side. I don’t go out and make opportunities to open new doors. Well, I knew that at the beginning of this blog. Nothing earth cracking here.

Maybe I need to jump to a deeper level in my mind. One minute pause. Nope, no depth here. I am feeling sad, boo hoo. I am at the end of this blog without any new thoughts on my closed door life.

Although, it did occur to me this morning, while I was getting dressed, that I could do a door series. I could walk through a new door each day and write what happened on the other side of the door. But, then I thought, which doors would those be? Restaurants? Stores? Church? Psychiatrist? Doors to my sibling’s homes? The proverbial doors?

I could call the series The Door Explorer. Yes,  I know, it sounds like Dora the Explorer.

The Easy Path – Autobot Style

So, I have been reading these New Age books on New Age stuff. Stuff that’s been around since -oh well-since Adam and Eve, but has been written in more palatable terms that we contemporary humans can understand, like how to find your joy path. According to Rhonda Byrne, author of “The Secret,” the easy path to joy is to think good, happy thoughts when we wake up in the morning. 

Good, happy,  thoughts should defeat the ever present dark thought that’s stuck in our frontal lobe. Having a lobotomy would be an easier method to clear out those negative thoughts. We’d definitely would be on a path, albeit a joyless one, which of course would defeat the purpose of finding our joy.

Since a lobotomy is not for everyone, then how do we think positive thoughts every minute of the day? Is it even realistic to positively think every second of the day?  Maybe a better question to ponder is is it realistic for a negative thinker to suddenly become a positive thinker?

No one suddenly becomes anything in life. It’s all baby steps, baby.  If you tend to be a negative thinker, such as I, then it’s baby autobot steps.

Baby autobot steps are similar to baby steps. While  baby step statements are said in a step, listen to yourself berate yourself, step, listen to yourself berate yourself, step, fall back and whine motion, baby autobot steps  are stated forcefully and rapidly through your brain in order to shut down the negative streamline that’s embedded into your brain like a gushing winding river. And, believe me there is passion in rapid and forcefull positive statement propulsion.

However, you need more than three positive statements otherwise saying the same statement like, “I am a highly intelligent person,” gets a little tedious after five minutes. You might start to lose the necessary passion for it and yourself, somewhere at nine minutes.  And, if the passion is gone, well, heck, you might as well as launch that negative track you’ve grown accustomed to or simply just take a break, and then resume the rapid propulsions, possibly after lunch when you’re about to fall asleep. Yes, indeedy, that was a long sentence.

Let’s work with eight positive statements to propel through your brain. You can make them up with your own fiery passion attached to them or you can use mine. You’ll just have to exude extra passion because they already have my energy attached to them as well as the energy of the person I originally got the statements from. No, I didn’t steal or plagerize. I’ve read lots of self-help books and positive affirmation emails from various positive thinking people over the years.

1. I am a highly intelligent person.

2. I am a calm and peaceful person.

3. I am a creative problem solver.

4. My joy comes from within.

5. My body is healthy.

6. Laughter is my medicine.

7. I have knowledge of all things (Esther Hicks). This one helps with solving problems.

8. I turn the other cheek and focus on other things. (Esther Hicks, The Bible) This one helps with neighbors.

This method of rapid positive statement propulsion does require that you memorize the statements, so that each one flows right after each statement. Otherwise, you will get stuck on one statement, and as I have stated earlier, it does get tedious after five minutes. Then state each statement with as much good “Feel Good” passion. You can vary the way you state each statement by emphasizing words. Go shout it out if you must to imprint a new winding gushing river path in your brain.

If this doesn’t work, then fall back and whine.

The Illusion

Everytime my younger sister runs up to me with her doe-eyed brown eyes and asks, “T. do I look fat?,” I inwardly cringe.  Last week when she asked me that question, I said, “A., if you weren’t married, you would be able to get a man quicker than I, because men like chunky women.”  She proceeded to moan about how fat she was, but not quite as loudly as she would have, if I had simply told her she was fat.

She’s not a round fat, but she’s not the stick figure I am. She’s had two babies, and I…well, I have two cats, and no man. But, this isn’t about me being a stick figure without a man.  I can see where this is going, so let me get back to the purpose of this blog which has to do with, my favorite subject of the moment, scarves.

The next time someone asks you if they look fat and they are, but you don’t want to tell them they are fat, gently highlight to them that they can easily remedy their appearance.  They can draw the attention away from their flawed body parts with the use of a scarf neatly tied around their neck, shoulder, or waist. With the right proportions, colors and fabrics, it’s all an illusion, just like a magician’s presentation.

Proportion is about balancing the body, clothing, and jewelry. With three basic sizes of scarves: square, oblong, and oblong diagonal, a scarf needs to be in proportion to the woman’s body.  If she is a short woman, then the scarf would need to be a smaller oblong square, whereas, a taller woman would wear a scarf in proportion to her length; a longer oblong square. Softer scarves look best on body hugging dresses whereas, a bulky scarf could be used to hide an unappealing dress, or update an out of date dress. Add jewelry, such as pins to the scarf, and earrings with complementary visual weights. For example, teeny tiny earrings would be overpowered by a bulky scarf, conversely, large metal earrings would dominate a lightweight chiffon scarf.

Color is just as important as proportion. The eye sees color first, thus drawing attention away from the figure problem. Scarves can be one color, the same color as the outfit, or contrasting colors. Monochromatic colors tend to add a crisp and sophisticated style. Contrasting colors can be bold and exciting especially when paired with a dull dress.

As jewelry adds visual weight to the outfit, so to does the fabric weight of a scarf. The scarf needs to be the same weight as the clothing. A wool scarf would be heavy enough for a bulky sweater, while a silk scarf would be more suited for a linen suit.

It’s all about proportions and drawing the attention away from the flawed part. Therefore, the next time someone asks you if they look fat, and complains about exercising after you answer yes, be prepared and hand them a scarf.

The Rosette

To jump start my brain into resolution-thinking mode instead of the panic-no-job mode, I went to the library and read some books on consumer behavior, beads, fundraising, and my favorite blog topic of the moment, scarves. I am scarf energized.

While I learned how to tie the basic half and whole knots, I happened upon the rosette design, a pretty coiled flower design.  Other than matching clothing colors whether the colors are in style or not, I am not a trendy dresser.

In other words, I thought the rosette design had just re-emerged into fashion conciousness when I saw the design bedecking a pair of divine leather thongs and a skinny belt in an array of colors in the April 2010 issue of a Talbots catalog. I had even forgotten I had seen the  design in one of my sister’s Victoria Trading catalogs. I never paid much attention to the design except to note that in the catalog it was red and a flower. However, according to Wikipedia, the rosette design has been in human design consciousness since ancient Mesopotamian artisans patterned the circular leaf design from nature’s flowers and used the design to adorn funeral steles and stone sculptures. 

I have provided an introduction for tying a scarf into a half knot and a basic rosette that can be found in the book titled “Scarf Magic” by Donna Shryer.

Supplies

Oblong or rectangle scarf

In order to learn how to tie a scarf into a rosette, you will need to know how to tie a basic half knot.

How to Tie a Half Knot

1.  Fold an oblong scarf around the back of  neck so that the two sides evenly hang in the front.

2.  Cross the  ends to form an X.

3.  Pull the upper side behind the lower side and then pull the upper side up through the neckband.

4.  Flip the upper side over the lower side.

How to Tie a Basic Rosette

1.  Tie a basic half knot.

2.  Bring the end of the scarf together and twist into a coil.

3.  Tightly twist until a circle is formed.

4.  Tuck the ends behind and then through the center of the coil.

Now you’re done!